Deep inside we all want to love others unconditionally and to be able to maintain loving relationships. But in practice it is very hard for us to overlook the negative things in others.
We are naturally inclined to think about ourselves first and to withdraw from relationships that get hard. Our natural self wants to just give up on a relationship as soon as we notice something we don’t like.
But the truth is that nobody is perfect. So it is impossible to have a perfect relationship with anybody. And therefore we should learn to love others unconditionally if we want to have any long-term relationships in our lives.
The good news is that we have Jesus who is the best model of unconditional love for us. He died for us while we were still sinners. That’s real unconditional love.
As Christians we have the Holy Spirit living on the inside of us that gives us all the power we need to love others unconditionally. But it is our job to be intentional about staying close to God and being refilled with the Spirit daily.
Spending daily time with God in the morning and asking Him to fill us with His Spirit does make a difference to the way we handle our day and the way we act towards other people.
Here are 3 reasons to love others unconditionally:
1. God loves you unconditionally
It is easy to just give up on people when they mess up. But God did not give up on you when you messed up. And God will never give up on you no matter how many times you will mess up again.
God loves us not based on who we are but based on who He is. So we should love others not based on who they are but based on who we are in Christ.
We should love others not based on how lovable they are but on how Christlike we are.
The closer we become to Christ the more we realize how undeserving we actually are of His love. And the more we realize that the easier it becomes for us to extend grace to others when they mess up.
2. You need others to love you unconditionally
We all need relationships. And the fact that we are not perfect does not make us very appealing. We mess up. And that’s why we need others to show us grace and unconditional love.
People are naturally inclined to withdraw from relationships that get hard. But when we show unconditional love to them then it’s easier for them to love us back and to overlook our imperfections if we overlook their imperfections.
When other people see how much you love them in spite of themselves then it is going to be easier for them to love you in spite of yourself.
3. Unconditional love strengthens relationships
We all want to have people in our lives who truly know us for who we are and still love us. We want to be known. We want to be loved. We have the desire to be transparent and vulnerable and to know that we are still going to be loved and accepted for who we really are.
We find our primary fulfillment and acceptance in Christ. But we also need other people who know us and love us for who we are.
When others open up to you and are transparent with you about the things they are going through it is your chance to become more like Christ and to decide to love them in spite of their imperfections. That’s how God teaches us unconditional love. He puts people in our lives that don’t meet our conditions.
Unconditional love promotes communication and transparency in relationships. When you show unconditional love to others you will also likely be shown that same unconditional love. And this creates a safe environment to be vulnerable and real with one another.
This transparency helps to deepen relationship and to grow more in love towards each other as you learn to accept one another in spite of all the imperfections.
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