4 Things to Ask Yourself Before Making an Important Decision

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As Christians it is important for us to live our lives in accordance to God’s will. The problem for most of us is knowing what God’s will is. In this article I give you 4 questions to consider before making an important decision.

 

1. Is Jesus really my Lord?

 

We can believe in Jesus and be saved by faith, and still not have Him as our Lord.

 

To have Jesus as Lord is to let him lord over us and our lives. To have Jesus as Lord means to live in a complete submission to Him. It means to commit our lives to Him and offer ourselves as a living sacrifice.

 

It means to be humble enough to view ourselves as servants of Christ and committed enough to decide to do God’s will for the rest of our lives.

 

Am I living in a complete submission to God? Do I want to do God’s will no matter what it is?

 

 2. Does it align with what the Bible says?

 

The Bible should be the primary authority in our lives. So every important decision has to be in alignment with the Bible.

 

“This Book of the Law shall not depart from your mouth, but you shall meditate on it day and night, so that you may be careful to do according to all that is written in it. For then you will make your way prosperous, and then you will have good success” (ESV, Joshua 1.8).

 

The Bible will not specifically tell us whether we should marry this or that person. But the Bible will tell us what kind of person God wants us to marry. The Holy Spirit can take a general statement from the Bible and apply it to a particular circumstance in our life. In that way God can speak to us through the Bible. Read more on God speaking through the Bible here: 4 Easy Steps to Effective Bible Study

 

Does what I want to do align with what the Scripture says?

 

3. Is my mind transformed by God?

The Bible says: “Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will” (NIV, Romans 12.2).

 

We should not live by the world but by the Word. And if we let the Bible to transform our thinking then our lives will never be the same again. We will get wisdom and understanding and we will want to do what the Bible says – we will want to please God with our lives and serve Him out of love.

 

When God transforms our minds He transforms our priorities to become more in alignment with His priorities. We start to value relationships more than achievements, we become less judgmental of other people, and we learn to show grace to others the same way Jesus showed grace to us.

 

So when God transforms our mind our priorities, thoughts, and desires become more and more in alignment with His will for our lives. So the more we let God transform our thinking the more we can rely on our own desires and thoughts to be in accordance with God’s will.

 

Is my mind transformed by God? Did my priorities and desires change?

 

4. Am I delighting myself in the Lord?

God’s Word says: “Take delight in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart” (NIV, Psalm 37.4).

 

If we truly delight ourselves in the Lord then He will give us the desires that He wants us to have and those desires will be in alignment with His will.

 

So what does it mean to delight in the Lord? To delight in the Lord means to love God more than anybody and anything in life.

 

“Do not love the world or anything in the world. If anyone loves the world, love for the Father is not in them.  For everything in the world—the lust of the flesh, the lust of the eyes, and the pride of life—comes not from the Father but from the world. The world and its desires pass away, but whoever does the will of God lives forever” (NIV, 1 John 2.15-17).

 

To delight in the Lord means to love God with whole your heart and to really put Him first in life. And if you do that, then God will change your desires to become in alignment with His desires. So that when you desire to do something it will be God prompting you to do it in accordance to His will.

 

So if you are really delighting yourself in the Lord, then you can do what you want to do. God will guide you towards doing things that He wants you to do by giving you the desire to do those things.

 

Do I really love God more than anybody or anything in my life?

 

What important decision do you have to make right now? Share in the comment section below so that I can pray for you.

 

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18 Comments

  1. So often we face important decisions without asking the questions you’ve listed, Kristina. Maybe we should ask ourselves these questions every morning when we wake up and review them as we go to bed. If we sandwich our day between them, we might just remember them in the middle of the day when we’re faced with big decisions! Thanks for asking the hard questions of us, Kristina. We need it. :-)

    • Thank you for your encouragement! You are right, it would actually be better if we asked ourselves these questions every day so that we walk in God’s will all the time :)

  2. Making big decisions is so overwhelming! I appreciate these four simple steps. Thinking of decisions from God’s viewpoint is the only way to slow down and really assess right from wrong. Aligning my mind with God’s priorities is where I struggle.

    • Andrea, I think it is a daily struggle for everybody. We are not naturally thinking the way God thinks. We see everything naturally from our human point of view. You are not alone. But I believe that if we spend time with God every day, then every day God will adjust our thinking to make it in alignment with His thinking :)

  3. Kristina, sometimes even when we are sure of God’s will, we still are afraid to take a step. At least these happen to me. Yet, our faith and trust in God’s word gives us all the reassurance we need to take that step into his will.

    • Yes, that’s very true. But I guess the fear comes for most people from the fact that they are not completely sure if it is God’s will until they actually try it.

  4. When I graduated from high school back in 2013, my graduation speech lended itself to the topic you covered so well in this article. My main points were that we had to trust and know God, delight in God, and seek God to have a successful life. Proverbs 3:5-6 was my scriptural text for my first point. I find it significant that the word “acknowledge” in those verses literally means “to know.” We’re not only supposed to give credit (as the standard English definition of acknowledge would lend itself to); we specifically have to know God personally, and under that scenario, we will have our paths directed by Him. My second point drew from the same scriptural text as your article did. I also find it significant that in Philippians 2:13, we find that God actively works in us so that we both desire to do the right thing and do the right thing. As we delight ourselves in Him, we can rest assured that He is working in us so that our desires become His desires. In my third point, I emphasized the necessity to seek God first, as Christ tells us in the Gospels to seek God and His Kingdom first.

    A few years back, I had a striking revelation about the will of God, and it led to coining one of my favorite quotes: “Performing the known will of God is necessary for determining the unknown will of God.” While that statement makes good ideological sense to me, I have some important decisions to make over the next year or so, and I still really don’t know what to do. I’ll be graduating with a degree in economics in the 2017 Spring semester, and I really don’t know whether God wants me to continue in graduate studies right away or if He wants me to seek employment right away, or some combination of the two. The benefit of studying economics is that it helps with analysis; the cost of studying economics is that sometimes I overanalyze. I just need God’s wisdom in what to do next.

    Now, I’ve only recently discovered your blog, but I’ve been reading through it little by little. Your analytical writing style is easy for me to follow, and I’ve found your contributions to be quite helpful. I do thank you for your hard work and desire to serve. It’s very encouraging.

    • Wow! Thank you James so much for writing such a long comment! I am glad that you find my blog helpful to you. That’s why I am blogging. It is very encouraging to me when somebody finds it helpful. Thank you! :)

      “analytical writing style” – I guess we economics people just think the same way ahah Nobody had complimented me on this. So thank you :)

      • You’re welcome! I just had some thoughts come to my mind that I wanted to share, and I don’t like to stop in the middle of a thought. I was about to apologize for writing the long message, but I thought that would defeat the purpose of the statement, as it would further contribute to word count. And as you full-well know, words experience diminishing marginal returns. Haha :D

        While I’m the first to specifically mention your analytical writing style, it was a positive statement about what I observed reading through a few articles. I enjoy having the “point followed by explanation” format; it’s how I’m wired. I’m certain many other structure-preferring folk notice it as well; they just care to express it in a perhaps slightly different manner. :) Thanks again, and keep up the good work!

        • ahah Thank you. Your point about diminishing marginal returns made me laugh. That’s one way to connect economics to what I am doing here :) I am actually thinking about somehow connecting economics to theology but I am not sure how and who would be my target reader.

          • I thought you’d enjoy that economic reference. :D Jargon is so much fun. :)

            Well, I believe everything ultimately falls into the realm of economics because everything involves a decision, implicitly or explicitly. For the purposes of an article commecting theology and economics, you could just start with the basics. Economics is all about deciding how to use resources when facing constraints (spiritual application: how we use our inputs, such as limited time, affects the output of eternal rewards). You could apply this principle in the context of one of Christ’s parables (Parable of the Talents would be a great option). You could expound on how we must seek the Lord’s wisdom for how best to develop and use our talents and time for His glory. Also, you could differentiate between the long run and the short run (how making decisions based solely on the short run can affect our opportunities in the long run).

            I can’t solve the target reader problem, but I would say that you could sprinkle in economic jargon in almost any article as long as you define your terms. I’d either 1) write an article designed for economic people like myself and yourself, and write another article with the same topic but with different jargon, or 2) write an article like I referenced before in which you write it normally but with economic principles tastefully sprinkled throughout the article. As much as I’d love the former because it would be awesome, the latter would be more effective. If in doubt, broaden your audience.

            Those are what we call in America “my two cents” — which is colloquial for meaning something like “my best advice.” Whatever you do, I believe it will be of exceptional quality. :)

  5. Thank you, James, again for such a long answer! I also had some ideas on how I could explain the Bible using economics concepts. But then I realized that the Bible is eternal while economics is a human invention – it is a way we decided to see and describe the world. The Word of God was created by God. Economics – by man. And so it would not be very correct to try to explain the Bible using economics. It should be vice versa. But I guess that’s just me thinking and analyzing too much :)

    • You’re welcome! :) You do have a point. I was advocating more for taking a Biblical truth and explaining it in economic terms. Obviously, the Bible is our only certain source of truth. But it is interesting to note that Christ used secular inventions (such as money) to illustrate spiritual principle (such as stewardship of resources). Insomuch that economics can be used to help convey Scripture, then there appears to be Biblical precedent for it. Obviously, economics is not Scripture, but it can be effective to use objects and concepts to help explain something more complex (just as a economic model is useful in explaining complex economic phenomena; it’s a means to an end, not an end in and of itself).

      Every decision has a benefit and a cost, and the Bible is full of examples of people that made short-sighted decisions (not accounting for long run factors) and had to bear the net costs of their decisions. But it also highlights examples of people who made decisions who displayed wise, godly forethought. Insomuch that one can identify positive factors (to replicate) and negative factors (to avoid), he or she is better able to grow in character, thus becoming more Christ-like. Identifying the factors that drove to the rise or the demise of a Biblical character would be quite interesting to write on, but would require a lot of research and analysis.

      Something more topical and practical would be looking explicitly at the economic topic of stewardship as described in the Bible. Seeing that God owns everything and that He has given mankind the duty and opportunity to serve Him by managing His resources, knowing how to use those resources is a high calling. And we will be held accountable for how we use our resources of time, talents and abilities, and material resources.

      Or you can continue with what you have been doing a fantastic job on all along. :) There are high opportunity costs associated with your time. And just as diverting time from writing on topics that have been shown to help people already has its costs, diverting your time by reading what may appear as verbose rhetoric has costs associated with it as well. Haha :D Thanks again for all you do!

      • When I read your comments, I feel like I am reading something between a research paper and a blog post :) Thank you for encouraging me :) Right now I think I will just concentrate on what I have been doing, and then maybe some day I will add another category that deals with economics.

        • Haha :D I apologize for writing long answers. I really don’t make it my aim to waste your time. I may get labeled as a nerd in the US and get taken advantage of as one, but I really am well-meaning. If I ever can be of help, you’re more than welcome to contact me. You’ve done so much; it’d only be fair.

          You are doing a great work, and I don’t think you should change. But I hope my ideas didn’t hurt for anything you have planned for down the road.

          It’s amazing to me to see how much you have overcome and how strong your faith is. I was born in a Christian home, became a Christian at 5, have a Dad who pastors a church, and have been educated from a Christian worldview for the vast majority of my life. Your practical insights in your book and your articles have given me Biblical solutions to areas that I struggle in, and looking at your life serves as both an inspiration and a rebuke (in a good way) to me. I’ve got a long way to go, but I’m thankful you have taken the time to minister to me and many, many others. :)

          • Thank you for encouraging me! But I have to say that I still myself have things that I struggle with. I do not want you from reading my blog to think that I am perfect or something. Just sharing what I learned and not sharing yet what I am still learning :)

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