The Bible is filled with stories of strong, courageous, intelligent women of faith that have changed not only the world they lived in but also lived out God’s plan for their lives and made a difference in His eternal Kingdom!
Some examples of those women are Mary, the mother of Jesus; Esther, Deborah, Ruth and many others. God created both women and men in His image. Jesus died for both women and men.
“There is neither Jew nor Gentile, neither slave nor free, nor is there male and female, for you are all one in Christ Jesus” (NIV, Galatians 3:28).
God is all about equality! He is all about fighting for equality for marginalized groups in society. For God all races, cultures, nationalities, socioeconomic classes, and genders are equally valuable.
And if feminism was about this type of equality that is defined in God’s Word, then I would be all for it!
But what I don’t like about feminism is that it encourages women to prove themselves. It encourages women to believe that they have to fight to prove they are equal. It encourages women to believe that they have to step up in leadership positions both at home and outside of home just to prove they are worthy.
Our worth as women is not found in our education, careers, or leadership skills. Our true worth comes from Christ.
God is not against female leadership. There are examples of women in the Bible whom God has appointed to be leaders. God used a woman to get the news out about His resurrection!
Feminism is fighting to prove that we are worthy when God already said that we are.
The reason why I don’t want to encourage anybody to be a feminist is because of the society it creates.
There is nothing in the Bible that says that women are not allowed to work or lead. But this encouragement of women to work outside of home and lead just to prove themselves worthy can have really negative effects on family, community, and world as a whole.
First of all, the family suffers. If mothers are encouraged to work full-time outside of home, then their children are left at home without a mother and the husband does not get as much time in her day either.
There are countless opportunities now to work online from home that I think are perfect for mothers! It’s not the work itself, but rather the encouragement to prioritize it over family that can create family problems.
Another reason why I am against feminism is because it encourages women to take charge not only in the workplace but also at home. And while women are as capable of leading at home as men, it just isn’t God’s best for them.
The Bible is clear on God’s design for marriage:
“Wives, submit to your own husbands, as to the Lord. For the husband is the head of the wife even as Christ is the head of the church, his body, and is himself its Savior. Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit in everything to their husbands” (ESV, Ephesians 5:22-24).
Marriage is meant to be a reflection of Christ and the church. A wife is to submit to her husband just as we as followers of Christ submit to Jesus. Submission to Christ is not in any way demeaning or taking away from our worth. And in the same way submission to our husbands is not in any way meant for our harm.
If anything, those are provisions God makes for us so that we can flourish in them. We know that Jesus loves us and so we can choose to submit to Him, in the same way we can choose to submit to our loving husbands.
Quick disclaimer, that applies to healthy marriages. The Bible is in no way telling women to be a doormat and suffer physical or emotional abuse from her husband. Submission is not about submitting to an abusive husband.
And so whenever we as women try to take on leadership positions in our homes we are not living out our biblical design for a wife and we are not being godly witnesses to our own family, community, or the world. This is me preaching to myself too, since I am about to get married in a few months, and I am trying to prepare my heart for submission to my future husband.
And the same principle applies to the order in the church. If wives are to submit to their husbands at home, then it would be inconsistent for them to come to church and start preaching to their own husbands. I believe that’s why the Bible restricts women’s role in the church to not being pastors, while still allowing all kinds of different services within the church such as hospitality, encouragement, prayer and many others.
«For God is not a God of disorder but of peace, as in all the meetings of God’s holy people. Women should be silent during the church meetings. It is not proper for them to speak. They should be submissive, just as the law says» (NLT, 1 Corinthians 14:33-34).
I am all for women’s equality as God defines it. I know that God loves me and the different role in society He intends for me as a woman is not to limit me but rather to help me flourish and truly be the woman He has created me to be! And most importantly to bring glory to Him with how I live!
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