We all probably have that person in our lives who complains all the time. And yet we sometimes ourselves can fall into that trap.
If I am not feeling well or I am going through something hard, sure I’ll share about it with others. But I think it’s the repetition that makes it unhealthy for me and others around me.
Whenever we are going through something frustrating or we are struggling with something, sure it’s fine to share about it with our loved ones. But share about it once, not once every hour.
Complaining focuses our attention on the problem and aggravates it in our minds.
Complaining may even give us some feeling of significance when we tell what’s going on to others, but it does not make the situation any better. It only leaves us and others feeling frustrated or discouraged.
And sure, there might be times in life where you just have to vent and let it out. But that should not become our daily habit.
I am definitely for honesty and letting our loved ones know what we are going through and be vulnerable & open with them. But again, it’s the repetition that makes it unhealthy.
If it’s something you can change, then change it. But complaining about something you cannot change only leaves you and others with negative feelings. It might even drive others away from you. People naturally want to be around positive people.
So how do we complain less & become more positive?
By being thankful in the circumstances that we are in right now. Because that is God’s will for us. The Bible says:
“Rejoice always, pray continually, give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you in Christ Jesus” (NIV, 1 Thessalonians 5:16-18).
God wants us to give thanks in all circumstances. Not for all the bad that is happening in our life. But rather try to see the good in the midst of all the bad circumstances we are going through.
When I became a Christian I realized that I actually have control over my mind. I actually can choose what I think about and what I dwell upon. And that my positive thoughts can also affect my emotions and make me feel better. And this can turn me into a more joyful person if thankful thoughts become my habit.
When I became a Christian I started praying daily. And with praying daily I started giving thanks to God daily.
Reflecting back I see that I am actually happier & more joyful now than I ever was. Life was not perfect before I became a Christian, and it is not perfect now. But it’s my focus that has changed.
Now every time I think of something negative I catch myself and try to redirect my thoughts towards something more positive. Now I know that I can change my thoughts. I can build healthy thinking habits. And so can you.
Are there any areas in your life that you cannot change but you keep complaining about? Are you using complaining as a way to get significance?
No matter where you are now, let’s pray and ask God to help us think healthy thoughts. The Bible says:
“Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things” (NIV, Philippians 4:8).
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